7 Simple Signs Your Spouse May Be Cheating
Temptation is defined as the desire to do something, especially something wrong or unwise and lead to impulsive behaviors. While some temptations like a dessert bar at a buffet are harmless, there lies a darker, seedy underbelly of the word: cheaters. Cheaters, the word itself can a put you at edge. Hearing the word can make you wonder, “is this happening to me? Is my significant other cheating on me?” But how will you know, and how will you be able to find out if your partner is cheating on you?
Between 2010 to 2017 there was a survey done by the Institute for Family Studies which found that 20% of men and 13% of women cheated on their spouse or significant other. The study also found that a majority of the people who were cheated on never saw it coming. How do you know for sure if your spouse is having an affair? Is it possible that their new behaviors are not related to infidelity at all? There are certain ways that prove you are being cheated on and not losing your mind or overthinking your gut feelings.
These are the seven ways to discover if your spouse or partner is having an affair. Before catching a cheater, it is important to know the signs of a cheating spouse or significant other.
7 Warning Signs Your Spouse Is Cheating
What is Gaslighting and how does it relate to infidelity? This term is a form of psychological abuse of one person who denies the reality of another in hopes that they can make the other person doubt their reality. Why would a cheater use this method of psychological abuse? The answer is unfortunate, yet simple. This allows them to trick their spouse or significant other into believing their lies, doubting their own suspicions and in return will allow the cheater to get away with their behaviors. Emotional connections can further gaslighting techniques and make a victim believe a different reality. Unfortunately, almost every partner who is being cheated on has experienced some form of gaslighting.
Start To Care About Appearance
This behavior is less harmful than gaslighting, but if you notice a sudden change in the appearance of your spouse or partner, it could indicate that they are having an affair. Changes in appearances can mean a partner is trying to impress their secret lover. Signs can include new colognes, drastically new style, excessive spending on new clothes, and becoming a gym rat overnight.
A Friend Spots Them On Dating App
One of your single friends was swiping through a dating application or pursuing a dating website and stumbled upon a picture of your significant other. If your relationship is fairly new, it is possible that they had multiple profiles and forgot to take them down or delete them. However, if your friend examined the profile and noticed that they were active on the application, chances are your spouse is having an affair on you.
Significant Other Doesn’t Call You By Name
Why would a cheater employ a tactic like this? In fact, there is a psychology behind this method and it’s that cheaters do not want to mix up your name with someone else. Using terms like baby, honey, sweetheart, but never your name might mean that your spouse is having an affair on you.
They Exhibit Impulsive Behavior
Cheating by nature is an impulsive behavior. If you suspect your spouse is cheating on you, it is important to observe and examine any other impulsive behaviors they might have like overindulging at a bar, gambling, overspending, or overeating to name a few. The good news is, it’s not you. There are mental health conditions and illnesses that can lead someone to cheat and be unfaithful. Some of these conditions include Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, Bipolar Disorder, Sociopaths, antisocial personality disorders, narcissistic personality disorders, or sex addicts.
Finding Lipstick On Collar or Perfume Smell
Have you noticed that there is lipstick on the shirt of your partner that is not yours? Maybe you’ve realized that there is a different cologne on a shirt that is not yours, nor is it your partner’s. While it could be a coincidence, these are signs that your partner is having an affair.
Spouse’s Attitude Changes, Becomes Defensive or Argumentative
Has your spouse or partner started arguments with you instead of answering any of your questions? One common behavior with a spouse who is having an affair on you is that they are explosive when you question them on anything. Chances are they will change the subject or turn it around to be an argument. This will give them an easy way out to avoid the discussion.
What do you do if you suspect a cheating spouse or partners?
Before jumping to conclusions, it is important that you do proper research and communicate with your partner first over your concerns. However, if you trust your gut feeling and have exhausted other methods, a computer, mobile, and digital forensic investigation can help. In fact, we offer many services that can help you throughout the process. Secure Forensics has the tools and legal knowledge to analyze digital devices to spot the signs of infidelity in a relationship. To begin your case, call us at 1-800-288-1407.